My boyfriend refuses to come to church. I really like him a lot. What do I do?
Signed, Searching for an Answer
Dear Searching,
Your question infers two things. One is that you are a believer and understand
the significance of a personal relationship with Jesus Christ and a church
family. The second is that your question
implies that your boyfriend is either
not a believer or is maybe someone who says he is a Christian, but is not
obeying what the Bible clearly tells Christians to do:
“And let us not neglect our meeting
together, as some people do, but encourage and warn each
other, especially now that the day of his coming
back again is drawing
near”. Hebrews 10:25 (NLT)
Since you really care about your boyfriend you rightly
should be concerned for his spiritual welfare.
Two words in this verse jump out to me:
encourage and warn.
Encourage him to come to a worship service or a youth event that the two of
you can enjoy together. Pray for
him. Even express your concern that he
is missing out on something that would be tremendously beneficial to him.
However, for you it sounds like there may be a deeper issue
here. Have you read
II Corinthians
6:14-15a? (Message)
Don’t become
partners with those who reject God. How can you make a partnership out of right
and wrong? That’s not partnership; that’s war.
Is light best friends with dark?
These are strong words, but God’s Word is always for our
benefit. Wrapped around a
boyfriend-girlfriend relationship are powerful emotions. And if Jesus Christ is the most important
person in your life, and your boyfriend is not a believer (or even a weak
believer) you are in radically different places in your life experience, and
chances are that there will be difficult times ahead.
